Oasis Aqualounge is known as a women-friendly sex-positive club, meaning visitor safety and comfortability is taken seriously. I was once a people-pleasing dork with a particularly loud shame wizard thanks, Big Mouth. But through university and doing stand-up, I began growing into a loud and proud lady, unafraid of embarrassment.
I made it my goal to start dismantling the shame that plagued me as a teen, beginning with the most tantalizing aspect: sexuality. I went to my first sex-positive warehouse party at the Kinky Salon in London, England. It was a magical place and it made me feel like a basement nerd who had discovered their first Comic-Con. Now that I live in Toronto, I want to find that same magic and help others find their inner freaks. Consent therefore plays a huge role at the club. Before entering the venue, you must agree to the one ask rule: If you ask someone if they want to do something once, and they say no, you are not allowed to ask again.
On the first and third Thursdays of the month, Oasis runs an event called First Taste, a comparatively quiet night where the staff provide a tour and answer questions for first-timers. This night is exclusively for women and couples, and on my tour, there were three couples, an older self-proclaimed cougar and me.
We visited each room of the converted 19th-century mansion, including a red orgy room, a performance area with a stage for shows and a s room called the Shagging Wagon, complete with half an old Volkswagon bug, which someone nearby noted was slightly more charming than it was practical. The tour ended in the BDSM room, where we were invited to take a seat. I sat on a leather chaise lounge while the other woman in our group went straight for the sex swing.
What a queen. Our tour guides talked about the events they hosted the high tea steampunk night particularly peaked my interest and answered questions. The club even tries its best to make a night of it, uniting people with the same kinks. There are foot fetish nights, unicorn nights where couples meet singles who are interested in threesomes and spectator sex nights for voyeurs and exhibitionists. They ensured me that Oasis is a safe environment for newbie couples to play in, or even just to socialize with likeminded people.
That said, trying something new can always conjure up emotions or possible discomfort, so the experts recommend choosing a safe word or phrase before coming into the club. I have to say I was skeptical at first about a pool at a sex club. It sounded to me like putting my whole bare hand into a buffet salad bar. Thankfully, I was wrong. Apparently in the summer and winter, they do.
Nudity does not always have to be sexual. Many people who go to Oasis are simply nudists who like to hang out in the buff. Later on, I did swim naked in the pool. It was both amazing and terrifying. DTF takes place on the first Tuesday every month and is dedicated to women who enjoy multiple male partners.
For a night built up to be an orgy-filled fun house, I was truly surprised by how much socializing there was. I assumed that once I got to the higher floors, it would be strictly sex around every corner, but there was a lot of catching up between regulars, meeting new people and sometimes casual conversation amidst the chaos. Since Oasis is clothing-optional and also a spa, visitors are always assigned lockers for their belongings. I forgot how nice it was to be at a bar and not have to worry about my purse or jacket.
By the time I arrived at pm, every locker was taken. But actually, the craziest thing is that nobody is looking at you. For me, that was the beauty of it all. They prefer a non-judgmental place where they can be themselves. No one is expecting you to do anything because no one has any expectations of you at all, aside from being chill to those around you.
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