Monthly Archives: March 2010

Baby Whimpering

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What is baby whimpering and how do we spoil a child?
New Zealand child psychologist Nigel Latta says that it is very easy to spoil a child. You merely “indulge their every whim”.

According to Latta, parents give in to their child’s every desire for three reasons, because

  • they had “crap childhoods”
  • they feel bad if their children feel bad
  • giving in is just easiest

Psychologist, Jackie Riach who runs the Triple P Positive Parenting Programme in New Zealand says that the term spoil is less used these days – people tend to use the term indulged or pampered. Continue reading

The most popular myths about motherhood

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Nowdays there are a lot of women who went from full-time work into full-time motherhood. This is a great change in woman’s life. Motherhood is joyous and it’s also hard work.
Many mothers have set some expectations of what motherhood will be like. Sometimes the expectations are so strong that they can even prevent women adjusting to having a baby and to enjoying the experience. I believe it will be interesting for you to read some of the myths about motherhood.

Myth 1: Motherhood equals non-stop joyfulness

Yes, it’s joyful. But I don’t think Non-stop. Many women think that motherhood will be like. The media and clever advertising tells us that motherhood is sunny days, walks in the park and rosy cheeked babies who smile and gurgle on demand.
Expectations that motherhood should be “easy” can be difficult if things don’t go as expected. Many women at this point feel overwhelmed and in some cases incompetent.
It’s important to have realistic expectations of yourself and your baby. One way to do this is to have an honest discussion with a couple of other mums you trust, who have kids the same age as yours. Find out what they are really experiencing, what are their highs and their lows and how are they coping. This type of discussion might help you feel your experiences are not uncommon.
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